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《Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less》

PART 1 ESSENCE What Is the Core Logic of an Essentialist?

Nonessentialist Essentialist
Choose I have to I choose to
Discern everything is important. only a few things are important.
Trade-off I can do both. I can do anything but not everything.

Chapter 4 TRADE-OFF Which Problem Do I Want?

  • TRADE-OFF: 取舍，有舍才有得。舍是“放弃”，通过放弃来减少精力（个人）、财力（公司）消耗以谋取更广阔的发展机会和上升空间。因此“舍”不仅痛苦（痛感不亚于辟邪剑法那一刀），舍弃后必然要面对外界压力，这一过程更加艰辛。我为保持自身独立性，选择放弃了国内一家保险公司可养老的职位，去“外面”混社会，最后一个月薪资是在那家公司的三倍（尽管不高但确是离职前的我想象不到的），工资上来之后，我才逐渐摆脱家庭困扰；

  • TRADE-OFF: 取舍。舍，需慎重。那家保险公司公司年初发奖金，我是前一年11月底辞职的。不仅给一直很关照我的前领导带来了很大麻烦，我自己也“任性”放弃了一“大”笔钱。自己在离职前没有投简历，职场定位不明确甚至没有拿得出手的技能，因此过了大半年才找到工作。决定要提前做，做了要给自己时间准备；

  • TRADE-OFF: 取舍。取，在“舍”的时候就已经进行了，因此需耐心。“取”是一个过程，可能隐忍、苦修长达数年数十年之久。比如诸葛隐居山野却名声在外；比如“看护”明神宗长大的冯保；

  • Do both，对精力管理有极高的要求，稍有不慎，可能会失去“所有”。很常见的是前一天晚上熬夜，第二天早上上课犯困；很严重的例子是：早上健身，下午学日语，晚上上班就会打盹，甚至错过领导的会议。

PART 2 EXPLORE Discern the Vital Few from the Trivial Many

  • Essentialists会花时间在：

    • exploring
    • listening
    • debating
    • questioning
    • thinking

  • 影响识别质量的因素

    • 思考的空间；
      • 有谁？
      • 什么样的空间？安静、远离“诱惑”，还需要什么？
    • 看和听的时间；
      • 什么时候？
      • 多久？
    • 玩得是否尽兴；
      • 多久？马斯克能和人玩一晚上
      • 什么类型的游戏？
    • 睡眠质量；
      • 多久？
      • 和时间有关系吗？
    • 是否有纪律、高标准地执行；
      • 标准如何设立？
      • 如何更好的设定“纪律”？

生活

我有Overthinking的毛病，尤其是对失败的事情、被在意的人责骂等

  • Overthinking和Introspection的区别在于：
    • 思考时是否保持客观；
    • 是否“被动地”进行重复性思考但没有任何结果；
    • 是更清醒了还是变得更负面了。

Overthinking

Symptoms of Overthinking
  • Repetitive and Unproductive Thinking:
    Overthinking involves a cycle of thoughts that repeat themselves, often without leading to any resolution or action.
  • Excessive Analysis:
    It can involve overanalyzing situations, past events, or potential future outcomes, often to the point of magnifying minor issues.
  • Focus on Negativity:
    Overthinking often involves dwelling on negative thoughts, fears, and potential problems, rather than focusing on solutions or positive aspects.
  • Difficulty Disengaging:
    Overthinkers find it challenging to shift their focus away from the thoughts they are dwelling on, leading to a constant mental burden.
Potential Consequences:
  • Increased Anxiety and Stress:
    The constant worry and negative thoughts associated with overthinking can contribute to anxiety and stress.
  • Decision Paralysis:
    Overanalyzing situations can make it difficult to make decisions, leading to a sense of being stuck or overwhelmed.
  • Sleep Disturbances:
    The mental chatter and racing thoughts associated with overthinking can make it difficult to fall asleep and stay asleep.
  • Emotional Distress:
    The negative emotions and self-criticism that can accompany overthinking can contribute to overall emotional distress and lower self-esteem.

Introspection（内省）

Key Aspects of Introspection:

  • Self-Reflection:
    Introspection involves thinking about your own experiences, beliefs, and behaviors.

  • Mental Observation:
    It’s a process of paying attention to your thoughts and feelings as they happen.

  • Understanding Inner Workings:
    Introspection aims to uncover the “why” behind - your actions and reactions.
    Distinguished from External Observation:
    While you can observe others’ behavior or physical appearance, introspection is about understanding your own internal world.

  • Balance and Perspective:
    While introspection can be valuable, it’s important to avoid excessive self-criticism and overthinking.